Thank you so much for the spouse you have blessed each one of us with. During this time in our lives as we are spending even more time together as husband and wife, Lord I pray you help us to cherish all the special moments we are creating together as co-laborers. Lord, help each one of us to always focus on the good in our spouse and not be discouraged by the little things that can potentially cause division amongst us. Allow your Word to remind us that ”two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor” (Ecclesiastes 4:9). Help us to stay committed to the awesome call of marriage as we continue to labor with our spouse. Continue to help us to deepen our communication and friendship with You and our spouse so that our relationship grows stronger than ever. Help us to keep You first as we draw closer to you as a couple. Lord, give us strength and courage as we journey together in marriage each and every day. In the mighty name of Jesus, Amen!
In marriage, we often look to connect with our spouse in a special way that allows for God to receive the glory through our Spiritual connection. God is desiring to give practical wisdom and assurance on what it will take to better connect in a relationship with Him first and then we will better understand our connection with our beloved spouse.
Scripture reminds us to “grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ” (2 Peter 3: 18). In order for the connection between husband and wife to be authentic, they must strategically connect with the source who supplies all needs spiritually, physically, emotionally and socially. The divine order of connection is “God first, spouse second, family third and everything else afterwards”. In essence, what does it really mean to connect with God first and foremost?
Love the Lord with All Your Heart, Soul and Mind
When a husband or wife continue to build loving capacity in their efforts to grow deeper in their relationship with God, God alone will afford opportunities for husband and wife to be Spiritually rewarded for seeking Him first. By“Loving the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind” (Matthew 22:37), God will then guide you through the trials of life in which we will experience at some point along this journey of marriage.
Seeing Marriage from a Triangular Perspective
When we think about our connectivity with God, let’s look at this from a triangular perspective. With God, rightfully placed at the top of the triangle point, the husband and wife are strategically placed at either point on the bottom. With this triangular diagram, we can see how the connectivity between God, husband and wife continues to be at the center of our Spiritual and relational journey. God is looking for us to strengthen our relationship with Him personally and together as a couple when our connectivity flows through Him.
Seek God for Wisdom, Knowledge and Understanding
Connecting with God is much more than having an intentional thought, but a connection which requires a deliberate action through prayer and devotion. By seeking God for wisdom, knowledge and understanding on how to be the husband and wife after His own heart, He will provide everything we need to honor Him and our spouse. Couples who stay connected to the source in God will experience greater joy as they grow closer by creating a spiritual bond that is unbreakable. Seek to strengthen your connection with the Savior Jesus Christ, besides, He alone has the answers to all of your needs, questions and thoughts. Trust God…Remain a Devoted Spouse!
QUESTION: In what ways have you connect with God individually and as a couple? Please comment.
We come to You today, with an aching heart, asking for protection from this pandemic of the Corona Virus. Lord, we are restless and uneased by the uncertainty of what we are experiencing right now in the world. Lord, we know You will not leave us nor forsake us or leave us vulnerable to this unseen enemy. Lord, please surround us with Your divine hedge of protection. Encompass us with Your strength and Your mighty arms of compassion. Lord, place us in refuge as You allow Your Will to be done on Earth.
Lord, we ask that You protect our minds by helping us to keep our minds and thoughts focused on You and not the circumstance which we are experiencing right now. Lord, as Your Word states “Let us not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of our minds that we may prove what Your will is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect” (Romans 12:2). “Help us by the power of Your Spirit to think on whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything is worthy of praise, let our minds dwell on these things” (Philippians 4:8) and not dwell on what is out of our control. Lord we trust you. Amen.
How amazing is it that God brought two different people together to model a marriage relationship whereas a husband and wife will walk out His purpose and plan. Who would of thought that God can use the core values in a man and the core values in a woman from their prospective backgrounds or culture to paint a vivid image of what Christ and the Church should look like in marriage?
Core Values Shape Perspective
The core values in marriage begins with our knowledge of what God desires from husband and wife as they work towards becoming one. In scripture, we can see that God commands us to “seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well” (Matthew 6:33, NIV). In other words, one of the core values God is assuring believers (husbands and wives alike) is to fully TRUST Him by seeking Him first and foremost before anything else.
Trust and Honesty are Essential Values in Marriage
In order for a marriage to be successful, the core values of trust and honesty must be part of the foundation to build a lasting relationship that represents Christ. Although trust and honesty are essential for a lifelong covenant commitment, it will take time and patience to help establish a footing to build something special in marriage by two totally different people.
The core values in marriage are shared values that will enable husband and wife to contribute from two different perspectives. Besides trusting and being totally honest with one another, husband and wife will ultimately be shaped in how they love, communicate and respect one another. Their willingness to listen, compromise and share in a partnership will allow them to grow deeper together and in God.
God is the Foundation and Core of Marriage
God’s guiding principles for marriage will afford a husband or wife the ability to strengthen their core values to help shape their beliefs in His guiding principles. These principles and core values will lead a couple to fully commit to one another through the ups and downs, good and bad that will surely come through the trials of life. There are many core values to fulfill the call of marriage, God specifically designed the blueprint for marriage for a lifelong journey of becoming one.
Successful Couples Learn to Share Their Core Values
We all have areas of weaknesses and vulnerability that marriage will highlight at some point. Although trust and honesty takes time to establish and build in a relationship, it is also the essential building blocks for strengthening the foundation of a heathy and vibrant marriage. Successful married couples learn to weave the core values of their spouse into the relationship for a great return on their investment.
THOUGHTS: Although all values below are important, please share two core values from the list below and why they are important to you in marriage. Please comment as we would love to hear your thoughts.
Faith, and why?
Trust, and why?
Honesty, and why?
Dependable, and why?
Loyal, and why?
Committed, and why?
Compassionate, and why?
Love Unconditionally, and why?
Respect, and why?
Consistency, and why?
“Effectiveness without values is a tool without a purpose” – Edward de Bono
We thank you for your son Jesus Christ who laid His life down for us. Lord, we pray for your healing hands on our marriages, families and world. We pray that your peace will rule in our hearts and minds as we go through this very trial and unpredictable times dealing with this Corona Virus. Lord You said in your Word, “the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard our hearts and our minds in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:7). Lord we receive your truth and promise right now. We chose to allow the peace of Christ to rest in our hearts and minds as the love and mercy of Christ trickle down through our marriages and families. In Jesus name…Amen!
Even the most seasoned Saints are encompassed with the notion of being fearful of the unknown. As we deal with this untimely and unpredicted course of the Corona Virus, we must remain steadfast in the truth of God that He “will heal the land in which we reside if we as Believers would humble ourselves, pray and seek God” (2 Chronicles 7:14, NIV).
God is Present, Even in the Midst of the Corona Virus
Although we are faced with this very grievous pandemic experience, “I can still see the miracles of God before my eyes”. The miracles I am speaking of is the sudden reminders in my own life as my faith remains a sovereign cordial of comfort knowing God is omnipresent in every situation or circumstance, even in the midst of this horrific Corona Virus dilemma.
We are reminded in the book of Psalm, chapter 27:13 (NIV) where David was reminded of the omniscience of God and His ability to guide us out of our troubles and heartfelt concerns. David was assured that he possessed the most powerful attribute in who God is and what God is capable of.
We’ve Been Delivered by God’s Grace and Mercy
Our unmovable faith in the midst of trials keeps us hoping, praying, waiting and believing in the truth of God by being reminded of the miracles and goodness of God in the land of the living. As David articulated in Psalm, 27:13 (NIV), he communicated not only a continuance of the mercy and grace of God which he already possessed, but he would see and enjoy in this life the deliverance from any obstacles he is faced with simply because of the promise of God.
Faint not, But Be Inspired by God’s Presence
There is nothing so effectual to keep our souls from fainting under the calamities of this present time experience as believing in the hope of seeing the miracles of God come to past yet again. When we are reminded of the life of David, we must be encouraged to faint not, but be Inspired by the presence of God.
Desire to Want More of God
We must not become paralyzed by our fear but empowered by our faith while taking a Spiritual inventory and build an ongoing relationship with God. Our desire should be wanting more of God and to know Him by being in His presence. I see miracles all around, do you?
When we look at marriage from God’s perspective, we will see and clearly understand that a marriage relationship between husband and wife is more than an ordinary relationship. As couples, when we said yes to God by agreeing to be in this special covenant relationship, we signed up for a life-long journey of becoming one.
What is so Amazing About Marriage
The fact that God Himself entrust husbands and wives to operate and coexist in a union He created and ordained. This extraordinary relationship we call marriage is intended to be carried out as a life-long commitment by the ones who said “I Do”. Extraordinary marriages God’s way just doesn’t happen over- night but is an on-going process. From the beginning of time, God already knew who we will be joined to as husband and wife in order to live out our marital purpose for which we were called. Scripture states, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and they shall become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24, NIV).
The First Step in Working Towards an Extraordinary Marriage
From that very moment when we committed ourselves in a covenant union with God and our spouse, we begin our transition from an ordinary marriage to an extraordinary marriage. In order for ordinary marriages to become extraordinary, husband and wife must follow God’s blueprint and allow His way and process to be the ultimate guide for honoring Him. The first step in working towards an Extraordinary Marriage…God’s Way is being in a consistent relationship with Him to begin to understand His character and His purpose for instituting and ordaining marriage.
Trials in Marriage Will Make You Stronger
Extraordinary couples nurture their relationship by understanding and operating within their roles and responsibilities as husband and wife. As we all know, marriage itself is a tall task that can be easily derailed by miscommunication or even a couple’s inability to agree to disagree among a few of many hurdles a couple face day in and day out. Although there are many factors in working towards an extraordinary marriage relationship. Scripture reminds us to “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up” (Galatians 6:9, NIV). In other words, to experience the blessings that extraordinary marriages can bring, couples must understand that trials in relationship is an opportunity to allow God to illuminate Himself in the midst of the disagreement to bring about resolution that will honor and glorify Him.
Couples, Commit to the Covenant
You as couples committed yourselves to the covenant of God and your spouse in marriage, God already prepared you with everything you need to move from the state of an ordinary marriage to a life-style of being an extraordinary couple in an extraordinary marriage His way. Don’t give up on God; trust Him and His process!
Terome and Ronda are the co-founders of Devoted Spouses, a registered 501c3 charitable organization. This dynamic team is dedicated and determined to educate and equip couples using biblical principles and values as well as other educational resources and tools to sustain a vibrant, responsible and healthy marriage relationship.
Their teaching style affords them the ability to weave humor, drama and transparency with their audiences. Based on their own marital challenges, they’ve learned to trust God’s wisdom, forgive one another, love one another unconditionally, extend grace when they fail and demonstrate mercy for the greatest good of the other. Only through the wonderful grace of God, Terome and Ronda are able to use their life story to inspire and encourage couples to stand on His word and not fall for anything that will lead them down a path of destruction or divorce.
Terome and Ronda have been married for over 26 years and have two beautiful daughters Tynisha and Jasmin, one handsome son Isaiah and three amazing grandsons Kaiden, Jaiden & Jesiah.
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